My approach to therapy emphasizes helping my clients to make powerful, life-enhancing choices. In a safe and nurturing environment, we’ll explore patterns of avoidance, anxiety and general areas of struggle with the end goal of helping you to achieve greater personal fulfillment and a lasting sense of well-being.

 I believe therapy is most effective when it honors your unique process. While therapy can be both challenging and exciting, we will work at a pace that you feel comfortable with and that works well for what you are hoping to achieve through therapy. I take the time to get to know you and understand how you came to be the person that you are today. I collaborate with other providers involved as necessary in an effort to bring you the most effective and meaningful progress through therapy. I am committed to helping you heal and grow from a holistic perspective.

ADHD in high-functioning adults often looks less like “hyperactive” and more like living with a constantly overloaded browser—dozens of tabs open, none fully closed. Many clients describe years of being praised for their intelligence and output while secretly battling procrastination, shame, and last-minute sprints to meet expectations.

Common patterns include:

• Holding impressive roles while relying on adrenaline, all-nighters, or crises to get things done.

• Alternating between intense hyperfocus on work and difficulty with basic tasks like email, finances, or home organization.

• Feeling “too much” emotionally—quick to frustration, rejection sensitivity, and internal self-criticism, especially in intimate relationships.

Why ADHD Feels So Personal In Relationships

ADHD does not only affect your calendar and to-do list; it touches how you connect, attach, and experience intimacy. Partners may interpret forgetfulness, time-blindness, or task avoidance as disinterest or lack of care, while you feel misunderstood and chronically “not enough.”

In high-achieving couples, this can sound like:

• One partner feeling like the “responsible one” who keeps everything together, while the ADHD partner feels parented or policed.

• Recurring conflict about chores, planning, money, sex, and follow-through, even in couples who deeply love each other.

• Difficulty transitioning out of work mode into presence, sensuality, and emotional availability, especially when the brain is overstimulated or depleted.

A Trauma- and Intimacy-Informed Approach To ADHD

Many adults with ADHD also carry histories of trauma, chronic criticism, or growing up in environments where their sensitivity and intensity were not understood. Therapy here does not treat you as a problem to be fixed, but as someone whose nervous system, stories, and strategies have been working overtime to keep you functioning in demanding environments.

Together, sessions may include:

• Nervous system work to understand how stress, overwork, and trauma responses (fight, flight, freeze, fawn) intersect with your ADHD patterns.

• Executive function and systems support that fit your actual brain—time-blocking, reminders, and routines that respect how you think instead of shaming you into “trying harder.”

• Deep relational work around communication, attachment, and sex, so ADHD is no longer the unspoken third partner in your relationship.

ADHD and Depression

ADHD and depression frequently overlap in high-functioning adults, where the relentless demands of masking ADHD—through hyperfocus, perfectionism, or all-nighters—erode emotional reserves, fostering burnout, shame, and a hollow sense of achievement. For founders, executives, and professionals in your Silicon Valley practice, this manifests as depressive fatigue amid success, with relational fallout like emotional withdrawal, intimacy avoidance, and cycles of resentment where partners feel burdened by forgotten commitments or scattered presence. Therapy here integrates trauma-informed somatic work to release stored shame, dopamine-supporting routines to rebuild motivation, and relational repair to restore connection and pleasure, transforming the ADHD-depression cycle into sustainable clarity and closeness.

What Therapy Can Help You Change

Therapy for ADHD as a high-functioning adult is about making your life more livable and your relationships more honest—not about becoming a perfectly organized person. Over time, many clients experience more internal spaciousness and less self-blame, even in the same demanding careers and complex lives.

You might notice shifts like:

• Moving from crisis-driven productivity to sustainable systems that protect your time, energy, and creativity.

• Feeling safer to be fully known—letting partners, lovers, or close friends see your process instead of hiding your struggles behind performance.

• Reclaiming pleasure, desire, and presence in your intimate life, instead of letting overwhelm or shame close those parts of you off.

Working Together

This practice is tailored for high-functioning, high-responsibility adults and couples—founders, executives, professionals, and their partners—who want a sophisticated, psychologically nuanced space to understand ADHD in the context of their whole lives. Sessions are trauma-informed, sex-positive, and grounded in both practical tools and deep exploration of meaning, identity, and connection.

If you recognize yourself here, you are not “too much” or “not disciplined enough”; you are a person whose brain and history deserve a different kind of support. Reach out to schedule a consultation and explore whether this kind of work is the right next step for you and your relationships.

Stress is not always a sign that something is wrong. In the context of life transitions, it is often an understandable response to change, loss, or sustained uncertainty. Transitions—whether anticipated or unexpected—tend to disrupt internal and external systems that previously provided stability, including roles, routines, relationships, and identity.

Some transitions are clearly defined, such as career changes, illness, separation, relocation, or becoming a parent. Others are more gradual and less visible: shifts in values, changes in capacity, or the recognition that a way of living that once worked no longer does. These quieter transitions can be especially stressful, as they are harder to name and therefore harder to address.

Therapeutic work around stress focuses less on symptom elimination and more on understanding context. Stress often reflects competing demands, unprocessed experiences, or adaptations that are no longer serving the individual. When left unexamined, it can become chronic; when approached thoughtfully, it can provide meaningful information about what needs attention or change.

Life transitions frequently bring questions about identity, agency, and meaning. Therapy can offer a structured space to slow down, differentiate between external pressure and internal expectation, and recalibrate responses to current circumstances. This may involve grief for what has been lost, uncertainty about what comes next, or learning new ways of relating to oneself and others.

Rather than viewing transitions as problems to be solved, therapy approaches them as periods requiring integration. The goal is not to return to a previous state, but to support the development of responses that are more aligned with present realities and long-term wellbeing.

Depression is often described as sadness. That description doesn’t go very far. For many people, depression feels more like exhaustion, disconnection, or a narrowing of life. Things take more effort. Decisions feel heavier. Motivation fades, even when there is no clear reason for it. Depression is not a failure of attitude or gratitude. It is often a response to sustained pressure, loss, or the quiet accumulation of disappointment. Sometimes it follows a clear event. Other times, it emerges slowly, making it hard to know when things began to change. People with depression are often still functioning. They go to work. They meet obligations. From the outside, things may look fine. Internally, however, life can feel flat, distant, or burdensome.

In relationships, depression can create distance without intention. People may withdraw, speak less, or feel unable to explain what is happening. This can lead to misunderstanding or guilt on both sides. Therapy for depression is not about forced positivity or quick solutions. It is about slowing down and taking the experience seriously. That includes noticing what has been lost, what feels unsustainable, and what expectations may no longer fit.

Over time, therapy can help restore a sense of movement. Not by pushing, but by creating room for honesty, mourning, and recalibration. Small shifts in attention and meaning often come before changes in mood. Depression does not define a person. It does, however, ask for care. With support, it is possible to relate differently to the weight it brings, and to find a way forward that feels more livable and more human.

Addiction often lives beneath the surface of a high-functioning life — managed, hidden, and deeply exhausting. Whether you're navigating alcohol, substances, or compulsive behaviors, this work goes beyond symptom management to address the emotional patterns and unmet needs driving the cycle. Repeated patterns of use or compulsive behavior reshape the neural pathways that govern reward, impulse, and emotional regulation, making it extraordinarily difficult to simply stop. This work takes a neurobiologically informed approach, helping you understand what is happening in your nervous system and why — while building the new patterns, connections, and capacities that support lasting change

Social anxiety and OCD are often misunderstood as problems of confidence or control. In reality, both involve complex relationships with uncertainty, self-perception, and perceived risk. They are not failures of will, but highly adaptive systems that have become rigid or overextended.

Social anxiety is characterized less by shyness than by heightened self-monitoring and concern about evaluation. Attention becomes directed inward—toward one’s own thoughts, behaviors, and perceived flaws—often at the expense of genuine connection. Over time, avoidance or over-preparation may reduce discomfort in the short term, while reinforcing the belief that social situations are inherently threatening.

OCD involves intrusive thoughts, images, or urges that are experienced as unwanted and distressing, alongside behaviors or mental rituals intended to reduce anxiety or prevent harm. The content of these thoughts is less important than the process itself: an intolerance of uncertainty and an exaggerated sense of responsibility. Attempts to neutralize anxiety through reassurance or compulsion tend to strengthen the cycle rather than resolve it.

Therapeutic work with social anxiety and OCD focuses on understanding these patterns without reinforcing them. This includes examining how attention, interpretation, and behavior interact to maintain distress, as well as gradually increasing tolerance for uncertainty, discomfort, and imperfect outcomes. Treatment is collaborative and paced, emphasizing skill development alongside insight.

Importantly, individuals with social anxiety or OCD are often highly conscientious, thoughtful, and sensitive to their environments. Therapy does not aim to eliminate these traits, but to help disentangle them from anxiety-driven processes that limit flexibility and choice.

With appropriate support, it is possible to relate differently to anxious thoughts and urges—allowing them to arise without allowing them to dictate behavior. The goal is not the absence of anxiety, but increased freedom in how one responds to it.

When Drive Feels Forced and Self-Trust Has Gone Quiet

You know how to achieve, but motivation feels performative—like you're going through the motions without the internal engine that used to move you. Or confidence has become conditional: present when you're succeeding, absent when you're not. This isn't about lacking ambition. It's about losing connection to the part of you that knows what you want, trusts yourself to pursue it, and can voice it without second-guessing.

Real confidence isn't loud or unshakable. It's quiet and grounded—the ability to show up as yourself, make decisions from your own compass, and trust that you can handle what comes. It doesn't depend on perfect performance or external validation. It emerges when there's alignment between who you are and what you do, when your body feels safe enough to take risks, and when you can distinguish between what you genuinely want and what you think you should want.

Dating is often framed as a means to an end—partnership, marriage, validation—but at its most useful, it is a practice in understanding oneself and others. It sits at the intersection of psychology, culture, and personal history, shaped as much by unconscious patterns as by conscious choice.

For many people, dating surfaces recurring questions: How do I form connection without losing myself? What do I value in intimacy? Which patterns am I repeating, and why? These questions are rarely answered by technique or strategy alone. They require attention, honesty, and a willingness to tolerate uncertainty.

Modern dating adds further complexity. Choice is abundant, time is fragmented, and communication is often mediated by technology. While this expands opportunity, it can also obscure clarity—encouraging performance over presence, and efficiency over depth. Navigating this landscape well involves discernment: knowing when to engage, when to pause, and when to step back from dynamics that are misaligned with one’s values.

Healthy dating is less about optimization and more about alignment. It involves emotional literacy, boundaries, and the capacity to stay curious rather than defensive. Attraction matters, but so do mutual respect, psychological safety, and the ability to engage in difficult conversations without collapse or withdrawal.

Ultimately, dating is not a separate domain from the rest of life. The same patterns that appear in work, family, and self-relationship often emerge here as well. Approached thoughtfully, it can be a meaningful context for growth—not because it guarantees outcomes, but because it reveals truths that are otherwise easy to avoid.

Money has a way of getting our attention. Not because it is complicated, but because it touches things we care about—safety, control, independence, and worth. People often think financial stress is a practical problem. Earn more. Plan better. Be more disciplined. Sometimes that helps. Often it doesn’t. Because the problem isn’t the money itself, but the relationship to it. That relationship usually develops early and goes largely unexamined. Over time, it can harden into patterns that feel obvious and logical, yet difficult to change. Even when someone understands what they’re doing, they may feel stuck doing it.

Money also plays a powerful role in relationships and marriages. A new level of income, an inheritance, a business taking off, or a sudden loss can quietly change the balance between partners. Roles shift. Expectations change. Old agreements may no longer fit. What once felt equal can start to feel confusing, tense, or unspoken. Often, these changes aren’t talked about directly. Instead, they show up as conflict, withdrawal, or persistent unease. Money becomes a stand-in for deeper questions about fairness, dependence, power, and trust.

Financial therapy focuses on slowing this process down. Not to give advice or dictate decisions, but to understand what money is doing emotionally and relationally. The work is about noticing reactions—avoidance, control, guilt, resentment—and what they are protecting. As circumstances change, values can change too. Or they may finally become visible. Therapy offers space to sort out what still matters, what no longer does, and how financial decisions can reflect that more honestly. The goal is not to eliminate anxiety or achieve certainty. It is to develop a more flexible relationship with money, and a clearer way of talking about it—both with oneself and with the people who matter most.