BeTogether Framework

The BeTogether Framework is a grounded, sophisticated model for understanding complex human systems — why life, leadership, or relationships can feel off even when everything seems to be working. It is a conceptual framework, not a prescriptive method, giving us a clear, repeatable way to understand what’s happening without locking you into one approach. Based on a careful assessment, we select evidence-based methods to address core wounds and adaptive patterns across life domains, restoring balance and internal security, and building the capacity to respond from presence rather than survival. The BeTogether Framework is the clinical framework we use at Ohebshalom & Co. Therapy to understand disconnection and guide reconnection across your entire life.

It's built on a simple truth: your life isn't made of isolated problems. It's an interconnected system.

Many people arrive with a familiar worry: “What is wrong with me?” They have tried advice, mindset tools, and sometimes earlier therapy, yet still feel tired, disconnected, or like their life no longer fits who they are. The BeTogether Approach offers a different starting point: Not “What is broken here?” but “Where am I out of coherence with myself and my values?” Coherence means your thoughts, feelings, body, choices, and relationships are in honest conversation with each other. It does not mean constant calm or perfect decisions; it means you are no longer endlessly pushing past your limits, silencing your feelings, or living in ways that quietly betray what matters most to you.

The BeTogether Framework is, at its core, a systems-level way of caring for a human life. It respects your capacity to think and make sense of things, and then invites the parts of you that cannot be solved purely through analysis back into the conversation. Coherence—feeling aligned and connected—becomes the measure that makes your efforts not only successful, but sustainable.

SELF

Self represents the foundation of authenticity, and internal security — how present, responsive, and grounded you relate with yourself, your voice, nervous system and sense of identity in everyday life. Self is a way in which a person lives their life. It reflects the degree of wellbeing of aliveness, authenticity, ease, and meaning. It includes your capacity to tolerate stress without collapsing into survival mode, make decisions from clarity rather than fear, rest without guilt, and maintain a sense of worth that isn’t tied solely to achievement.

The wellbeing of Self answers the question: “How is life being inhabited?”

How you relate to yourself and express your authentic self
Where adaptive patterns may no longer serve you
How foundational patterns support presence, love, ease, decision-making, creativity, leadership, and meaning

Wellbeing in Self provides the structure of a lived life - the terrain in which vitality can flourished or become restricted.

Six Domains of Self & Connection

Both pillars—Self and Connection—operate across the same six domains of human experience.

These domains describe where life is lived.

Wellbeing reflects their structure and vitality; connection reflects how fully they are engaged and integrated.

• Physical – the body, embodiment, nervous system, rest, and vitality

• Emotional/Internal – the capacity to feel and integrate emotion and inner parts

• Relational – attachment, presence, intimacy, and belonging

• Intellectual – creativity, art, ideas, learning, and culture

• Sexual – desire, aliveness, and embodied intimacy

• Existential / Spiritual – meaning, values, and inner alignment

A person may experience strength in some domains and restriction in others. Therapy focuses on restoring balance and communication across the system, rather than treating domains in isolation.

How this works in Practice

We start with assessment.

Through the BeTogether assessment process, we identify where disconnection has taken root. We identify the Self and Connection within each multiple domain of life, which includes the core wound or organizing pattern that expresses itself across each of these domains. Which dimensions are depleted? Which core internal patterns are present? Where would reconnection create the biggest ripple effect?

We create a tailored approach.

Your therapist matches evidence-based modalities to your specific pattern to bring more connection and coherence within yourself and relationships. We don't use a one-size-fits-all approach—we meet you exactly where you are.

We work across the whole system.

As one dimension strengthens, we watch how it affects the others. Physical stabilization might unlock emotional access. Emotional safety might allow relational vulnerability. Relational repair might restore sexual aliveness. We're tracking the whole pattern, not just individual symptoms. Essentially, our entire Self is based on connection within and then relating to our environment.

CONNECTION

Connection describes the process in how a person relates to their life, both moment to moment and over time. It is not a static state, personality trait, or something or either ‘has’ or ‘doesn’t have.’ Connection is dynamic, relational, and practiced. It determines whether wellbeing is felt, embodied, and sustainable. In connection, you experience closeness, responsiveness, and attunement with others. It reflects your ability to maintain trust, safety, and intimacy while navigating complex relationships.

The wellbeing of Connection answers the question: “How fully is life being experienced?”

The quality of your engagement: How you give and receive presence in relationships
Where relational patterns are functional or strained
For couples, how patterns form between partners and affect intimacy, collaboration, and shared purpose

A person may have a full life on paper yet feel disconnected from it. Another may feel deeply connected in one area while others remain

inaccessible - for example, having meaningful relationships while feeling emotionally absent, or intellectual vitality without embodiment. This quality of engagement determines whether life feels alive or managed, authentic or adapted, easeful or effortful.

Common Patterns

The Mind-Body Split

Physical and emotional wellbeing both low. You're disconnected from bodily experience and can't access feelings. Often from trauma or years of pushing through."

The Intimacy Gap

Relational and sexual wellbeing both low. You and your partner feel distant. Sex is infrequent, mechanical, or avoided entirely. Love is still there—connection isn’t.

The Achiever Pattern

Intellectual wellbeing high, everything else low. You've succeeded through cognition while neglecting body, emotions, relationships, desire, and meaning.

The Meaning Void

Emotional and spiritual wellbeing both low. Going through motions but nothing feels meaningful. Success feels hollow.

The Functional Freeze

Physical, emotional, and sexual wellbeing all critically low. Body numb, emotions shut down, sexuality offline. Often trauma-related or severe burnout.

These aren't diagnoses—they're disconnection patterns. And patterns can shift. These patterns reflect how Self and Connection are challenged and where restoring internal security and presence can support sustainable functioning.

The BeTogether Framework allows us to hold complexity without making your experience complicated. It provides a map for understanding patterns, predicting strain, and applying the right interventions — all while respecting your time, intelligence, and ambitions. It is especially suited for executives, founders, engineers, and high-achieving couples who want depth and precision, without over-therapy or performance pressure. By organizing human experience into Self, Connection, six domains, and recognizable patterns, and focusing on restoring internal security, presence, and adaptive patterns, the framework helps you stay effective, connected, and aligned across life, leadership, and relationships.

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