Who does Dr. Nicole Ohebshalom work with?

Dr. Ohebshalom works with founders, CEOs, C-suite executives, and senior engineers on the San Francisco Peninsula and across Silicon Valley, as well as their partners and co-founders. The practice serves clients in Palo Alto, Atherton, Menlo Park, Los Altos, Los Altos Hills, Hillsborough, Woodside, Portola Valley, Mountain View, Redwood City, and throughout California via telehealth.

What is the Co-Founder Clarity Program?

The Co-Founder Clarity Program is an 8-week structured engagement for co-founders who are stuck and ready to get aligned. It addresses recurring conversations that go nowhere, decisions that cannot get made, eroded trust, and unclear roles. Outcomes include a shared communication framework, role and decision-making clarity, tools to navigate conflict before it escalates, and a co-founder operating agreement. One weekly session with structured work between sessions.

What is sex therapy and what does Dr. Ohebshalom address?

Sex therapy is talk-based therapy that helps individuals and couples address low and mismatched desire, sexual pain including vaginismus and pelvic floor dysfunction, sexual dysfunction, post-baby and post-illness reconnection, intimacy after infidelity, and reclaiming erotic vitality in long-term partnerships. Dr. Ohebshalom is AASECT-certified and holds a PhD in human sexuality.

What modalities does Dr. Ohebshalom practice?

Clinical modalities include EMDR, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples and individuals, AASECT sex therapy, Gottman Method, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Deep Brain Reorientation (DBR), Flash Technique, Nonviolent Communication (NVC), Hakomi, somatic therapy, mindfulness, and positive psychology.

What is an EMDR intensive?

An EMDR intensive is a concentrated format of EMDR therapy — typically 6 to 12 hours across 2 to 3 consecutive days, tailored to the client's availability and goals. It is designed for founders, executives, and high-pressure professionals whose schedules cannot accommodate months of weekly sessions, allowing deeper trauma processing without long-term disruption.

Where is Dr. Ohebshalom licensed?

Dr. Ohebshalom is licensed in California as a Professional Clinical Counselor (LPCC #11181). Therapy is available in person at offices in Palo Alto and Los Altos Hills, and via telehealth throughout California. Executive coaching and the Co-Founder Clarity Program are available globally without geographic restriction.

What credentials does Dr. Ohebshalom hold?

Dr. Ohebshalom holds a PhD in human sexuality, is a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in California (LPCC #11181), is a Registered Nurse (RN), is a PSI-certified Perinatal Mental Health specialist (PMH-C), and is an AASECT-certified sex therapist.

What is the difference between therapy and executive coaching?

Therapy treats clinical conditions such as depression, anxiety, PTSD, and relational trauma, and works with history, identity, and the nervous system. Executive coaching focuses on present-day decisions, skills, and performance — leadership transitions, hard conversations, scaling, and board management. Many clients move between the two as the work demands.

FAQ & Fees

Fees & FAQs

I encourage you to see therapy as an investment in yourself, your relationships and your well-being. It will take a significant commitment of your resources, money and time, for you to see the results that you want in your life.

Individual, Couples or Therapeutic Coach

Individual Therapy $465 (50 minutes)

Couples Therapy $565 (50 minutes)

Couples Individual Assessment $540 (75-min session)

For my co-founder and executive coaching rates, please inquire.

I take a credit card on file in order to hold an initial appointment,

I provide video counseling sessions with individuals and couples in CA, the place where I am licensed. I provide therapeutic coaching and executive coaching globally.

5

6

7

8 What services do you offer?

1

We work with adults and couples who are high-functioning, thoughtful, and often outwardly successful, yet feel internally tense, disconnected, or stuck in patterns that insight alone has not shifted.

Our work can integrate trauma therapy, relational therapy, and sex therapy. This combination allows us to work not only with understanding and insight, but with how experience is stored and organized in the nervous system.

People often come in for concerns such as anxiety, burnout, imposter syndrome, perfectionism, relational or attachment difficulties, trauma, and emotional or sexual disconnection. The work is tailored rather than protocol-driven, and shaped by what your system is ready to process.

How do I get started?

2

Getting started begins with a brief consultation. This is a space to talk about what’s bringing you in, ask questions, and get a sense of whether the way I work feels like a good fit.

There is no expectation to have a clear formulation or to “know exactly what you need.” Many people come in with a sense that something isn’t settled, even if they can’t fully articulate it yet.

Many people skip the consultation and start with a few sessions. That works for me as well.

What makes you different?

3

Many people I work with already understand themselves well and have previously been to therapy. What tends to be missing is not insight, but integration.

We do spend time putting the dots together, but rather than focusing exclusively on talking about your experience, the work also engages the body, nervous system, and emotional brain. Deep change happens when patterns are worked with at the level at which they were formed—through neuroplasticity, not willpower.

We move at a deliberate pace, tracking what happens in real time rather than pushing for cognitive breakthroughs. Your intellect and ambition are not pathologized or dismantled; they are integrated alongside emotional and somatic awareness so that functioning no longer requires constant internal effort.

I'm neurodivergent, is this the right fit?

4

Many of my clients travel regularly for work or family, sometimes across multiple time zones. Sessions can often continue via secure video, with scheduling primarily dependent on time zone alignment and licensing considerations at the time of the session. When travel is anticipated, we plan ahead to maintain continuity in a way that is thoughtful and sustainable.

What if I travel frequently or have an unpredictable schedule?

Yes. I work with neurodivergent individuals and couples. I come to this work from both sides — diagnosed myself, raised in a family where neurodivergence was the norm rather than the exception, and clinically trained. I also work with perimenopausal women that are dealing with the impact of neurodiversity, work pressure, identity and hormonal change. Your wiring is not a problem to manage; it is the ground we work from.

Do you specialize in therapy for tech founders and executives dealing with burnout in Palo Alto?

Yes. I provides premium, depth-oriented psychotherapy tailored specifically for high-achieving professionals, tech founders, and executives on the Silicon Valley Peninsula. My background as a former Registered Nurse and meditation teacher gives me a specialized, physiological understanding of how acute corporate stress, venture capital pressure, and hyper-growth scaling manifest as physical burnout, chronic insomnia, and nervous system dysregulation.

Rather than relying solely on traditional talk therapy, my practice focuses on sustainable leadership and deep nervous system restoration through:

Somatic Integration: Calming the overstimulated "fight-or-flight" response common in executive leadership.

EMDR Therapy: Safely processing high-stakes failure anxiety, imposter syndrome, and workplace isolation.

Where can Peninsula couples find specialized counseling for tech-industry relationship strain?

How does Nicole Ohebshalom’s therapeutic approach differ from executive coaching?

I provide discreet certified EFCT couples therapy and AASECT sex therapy tailored to the distinct lifestyle and cultural pressures of Palo Alto, Los Altos Hills, and Menlo Park partnerships. The intense mental load of the tech industry often creates unique relational bottlenecks, leading to emotional detachment, unequal emotional labor, and desire discrepancies at home.

By integrating Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) with advanced somatic sex therapy, I help executive partners move past surface-level communication exercises to:

Repair underlying attachment injuries and emotional distance.
Bridge desire discrepancies and restore physical and somatic intimacy.
Align personal values with the realities of a demanding Silicon Valley career.

While executive coaching focuses on external performance, behavioral frameworks, and professional goal-setting, it is not designed to clinically address or heal the root causes of executive anxiety or trauma.

My clinical practice bridges this gap by targeting "high-functioning emotional adaptations"—the exact survival strategies that initially drove a professional's outward success but may now be causing internal exhaustion, identity crises, or relational disconnect. By integrating EMDR, somatic parts work, and relational psychology, she addresses both the psychological mind and the physiological body, facilitating sustainable behavioral shifts that standard coaching cannot reach.