BeTogether Framework created by Nicole
Core Belief
In my practice, I don’t ask “What’s wrong with me?”— I ask “Am I living in coherence with my authentic self?”
This reorients therapy away from correction and toward alignment. I reject the traditional pathology model and instead honor your inner capacity for clarity, resilience, and purpose. When you’re in coherence, everything shifts: decisions become clearer, relationships deepen, creativity returns. Our work is to help you reconnect to that innate sense of alignment and remove what’s been blocking it.
Coherence means living in harmony with your whole self—when thoughts, feelings, values, and actions align with your authentic voice. Instead of asking “What’s wrong with me?” we explore “What’s out of alignment?” This reframes therapy from fixing to integrating, from fragmentation to wholeness. Coherence is integrity embodied.
Framework 1: Whole-Person Wellbeing
We work across the full landscape of human wellbeing—emotional, relational, somatic, sexual, intellectual, and existential—because healing in one area ripples into every other. That’s what we call integration.
I see each client as a complete individual whose growth touches every part of life. Our work addresses six interconnected dimensions of wellbeing. By nurturing these areas together, clients develop stability, harmony, and a stronger foundation for lasting change.
Physical Wellbeing: Supporting the body through movement, nutrition, rest, and health. Your body is the foundation—when you're physically depleted, everything else becomes harder.
Emotional Wellbeing: Embracing and expressing the full range of emotions with acceptance. Emotions aren't problems to solve—they're information, messengers guiding you toward what matters.
Relational Wellbeing: Building quality, attuned connections and healthy relationships. We are shaped by our connections to others—secure relationships create the safety needed for growth.
Intellectual Wellbeing: Cultivating curiosity, creativity, and engagement with ideas, beauty, and learning. Your mind needs stimulation, challenge, and the freedom to explore what captivates you.
Sexual Wellbeing: Encouraging authentic expression of sexuality, deeper intimacy, and self-acceptance across the lifespan. Sexual wellbeing is about embodied aliveness, not performance.
Spiritual Wellbeing: Finding meaning and purpose, not necessarily through religion. This is about connecting to something larger than yourself—values, legacy, contribution, transcendence.
Framework 2: The Science of Human Connection
Our second framework is grounded in the science of trauma, attachment, and emotional regulation. It explores how the nervous system, emotions, and relationships shape our sense of safety, meaning, and belonging.
Connection is the organizing principle of our work—the thread that brings together all modalities and values.
Through evidence-based approaches like EMDR, EFT, and Sex Therapy, we help clients regulate their nervous system, deepen emotional attunement, and strengthen the connections that sustain resilience and fulfillment.
We are shaped by our connections to our bodies, to ourselves, to others, and to meaning. Disconnection at any level affects how we see the world, navigate stress, and relate to others. When connection is restored, vitality, joy, and purpose emerge. You cannot think your way to wholeness; you must reconnect your way there.
The Five Levels of Connection
At Ohebshalom & Co. Therapy, connection happens on multiple levels. Each layer supports the others, creating coherence between body, mind, and relationships.
Somatic Connection (body ↔ self)
Reconnecting to physical sensations, needs, and trauma held in the body. Your body holds your history—learning to listen to it is essential for healing.
Internal Connection (parts ↔ whole self)
Integrating fragmented parts with self-compassion and inner coherence. We all have different parts—the achiever, the protector, the critic. Wholeness comes from helping these parts work together.
Relational Connection (self ↔ others)
Building secure attachment, emotional attunement, and authentic communication. Relationships are where we heal and where we grow—they require presence, vulnerability, and skill.
Sexual Connection (embodied ↔ intimate)
Reconnecting desire, pleasure, and vulnerability in intimate partnership. Sexual connection is about so much more than sex—it’s about embodied aliveness and safe intimacy.
Existential Connection (self ↔ meaning/purpose)
Aligning actions with values and finding meaning across all dimensions of life. Without a sense of purpose, even success feels empty.
The Work
Therapy is not about fixing. It is about being seen, understood, and supported in becoming your most authentic self.
Lasting change comes from working with the nervous system, healing old patterns, and creating a life that feels grounded, connected, and truly your own.
When you feel truly seen, supported, and safe, transformation becomes possible. And when you’re connected to your authentic self, deeper intimacy, purpose, and presence become not just possible—but sustainable.