BeTogether Framework
created by Nicole Ohebshalom, PhD
The BeTogether Framework
This framework is entirely optional—clients choose whether or how to engage with it. Some find it a valuable lens for clarity and reflection; others prefer to focus directly on targeted therapeutic work.
The BeTogether Framework is a grounded, sophisticated model for understanding complex human systems — why life, leadership, or relationships can feel off even when everything seems to be working. It is a conceptual framework, not a prescriptive method, giving us a clear, repeatable way to understand what’s happening without locking you into one approach. Based on a careful assessment, we select evidence-based methods to address core wounds and adaptive patterns across life domains, restoring balance and internal security, and building the capacity to respond from presence rather than survival. When life feels misaligned — in work, relationships, or personally — we consider these primary dimensions:
1. Self
Self represents the foundation of internal security and sustainable success — how present, responsive, and grounded your nervous system and sense of identity feel in everyday life. It includes your capacity to tolerate stress without collapsing into survival mode, make decisions from clarity rather than fear, rest without guilt, and maintain a sense of worth that isn’t tied solely to achievement.
How you relate to yourself under pressure
Where adaptive patterns may no longer serve you
How foundational patterns support presence, decision-making, creativity, leadership, and meaning
2. Connection
Connection describes how you experience closeness, responsiveness, and attunement with others. It reflects your ability to maintain trust, safety, and intimacy while navigating complex relationships.
How you give and receive presence in relationships
Where relational patterns are functional or strained
For couples, how patterns form between partners and affect intimacy, collaboration, and shared purpose
3. Six Interconnected Domains
Rather than isolating problems, we consider how misalignment with yourself and human connection shows across life areas.
Physical – the body, nervous system, rest, and vitality
Emotional – the capacity to feel, tolerate, and integrate emotion
Relational – attachment, intimacy, community, and belonging
Intellectual – creativity, art, ideas, learning, and culture
Sexual – desire, aliveness, and embodied intimacy
Spiritual – meaning, values, nature, and inner alignment
We track these domains not for performance but to see where internal security and alignment are challenged, and where interventions restore self-trust, presence, and adaptive balance across life domains, enabling sustainable engagement in work, relationships, and life.
Recognizable Patterns in High-Achieving Systems
Certain patterns often emerge as adaptive responses in complex lives. Naming them helps clients recognize themselves and focus on leverage points without pathologizing:
Burnout & Overfunctioning — competence replacing presence
The Achiever Pattern — external success with internal disconnection
Intimacy Gap — relational closeness eroding despite care
Emotional Containment — feelings managed rather than experienced
Relational Gridlock — repetitive conflicts despite effort
These patterns reflect how Self and Connection are challenged and where restoring internal security and presence can support sustainable functioning.
The BeTogether Framework allows us to hold complexity without making your experience complicated. It provides a map for understanding patterns, predicting strain, and applying the right interventions — all while respecting your time, intelligence, and ambitions. It is especially suited for executives, founders, engineers, and high-achieving couples who want depth and precision, without over-therapy or performance pressure. By organizing human experience into Self, Connection, six domains, and recognizable patterns, and focusing on restoring internal security, presence, and adaptive patterns, the framework helps you stay effective, connected, and aligned across life, leadership, and relationships.
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The BeTogether Approach isn't about becoming a different person. It's about becoming more fully yourself—integrated, coherent, and connected across every dimension of your life. If you're ready to stop managing symptoms and start addressing the whole pattern, we're here.
Schedule a consultation to learn how the BeTogether Approach can guide your path back to wholeness.
The BeTogether Approach was developed by Nicole Ohebshalom, PhD at Ohebshalom & Co. Therapy and is the clinical framework underlying all of our work with individuals and couples.
