Reclaiming Desire: The Space Between Autonomy and Connection
When your body feels more like a task than a home, desire becomes complicated. This piece explores how women can rebuild sexual connection not by pushing harder toward intimacy, but by returning gently to embodied safety, curiosity, and rhythm—where autonomy and closeness can coexist.
Why So Many Women Feel Disconnected From Their Sexuality
I grew up Iranian, in a culture where a woman's sexuality didn't belong to her. It belonged to her family name. To her reputation. To the man she would eventually marry. Your version might look completely different from mine — but the result is remarkably similar: over time, all of it calcifies into a script. Not one you sat down and chose. One that just started running in the background of your erotic life like software you forgot you installed.
The One Skill That Separates Great Leaders From Good Ones
The best leaders are not the ones who always have the answers. They're the ones who can sit with not knowing — and ask themselves honestly whether they're acting from what's best for the company or from a more emotional, self-protective place. That kind of self-inquiry takes real courage, because it means being willing to see yourself clearly in a moment when your nervous system is telling you to just do something.
The Co-Founder Conversation You're Avoiding Is the One You Need Most
Most co-founders think conflict breaks trust. It doesn’t — avoidance does. The best teams don’t run from tension; they know how to use it. Hard conversations, handled early and cleanly, aren’t threats to the partnership — they’re what make it stronger. If something feels “fine” but off, pay attention. The absence of conflict isn’t trust. It’s a warning sign.
Submission as Consent: Why High-Performing Women Stay Silent
I work with high-achieving women in Silicon Valley and Palo Alto who are redefining success on their own terms. I know founders who've built systems but can't articulate their own desires. I know women negotiating billion-dollar deals living as though their own needs are secondary. In my therapy practice, this pattern is consistent: the higher the achievement, the greater the silence. For the first time in history, many women have independent financial security. Real choice becomes possible. This essay explores how high-performing women can move beyond the Madonna-whore binary and reclaim wholeness.
Therapist Corner: EFT’s Zone of Resistance 101
The zone of resistance is not a problem to fix; it is the exact threshold where a client’s body says, “I want this,” and simultaneously, “I do not yet believe I can survive having it.” It’s the thin edge between longing and protection—where attachment terror becomes visible through opposition, shutdown, or attack, hiding the suffering no one else sees.
Hawkins and Rana reframe it as weight-bearing: resistance carries the unprocessed load of attachment fears. Our job? Hang out here. Understand it. Stay regulated. This is where growth lives—not past the zone, but in it.
When Your Best Problem Solving Skill Isn’t Enough in Love
High performers are used to winning with their minds. In couples therapy, that same brilliance has to be slowed down and repurposed—not to out-argue a partner, but to actually feel, name, and share what’s happening inside. When you start using your pattern recognition and strategic thinking on your emotional life, awareness becomes the lever that changes everything in your relationship.