Who does Dr. Nicole Ohebshalom work with?

Dr. Ohebshalom works with founders, CEOs, C-suite executives, and senior engineers on the San Francisco Peninsula and across Silicon Valley, as well as their partners and co-founders. The practice serves clients in Palo Alto, Atherton, Menlo Park, Los Altos, Los Altos Hills, Hillsborough, Woodside, Portola Valley, Mountain View, Redwood City, and throughout California via telehealth.

What is the Co-Founder Clarity Program?

The Co-Founder Clarity Program is an 8-week structured engagement for co-founders who are stuck and ready to get aligned. It addresses recurring conversations that go nowhere, decisions that cannot get made, eroded trust, and unclear roles. Outcomes include a shared communication framework, role and decision-making clarity, tools to navigate conflict before it escalates, and a co-founder operating agreement. One weekly session with structured work between sessions.

What is sex therapy and what does Dr. Ohebshalom address?

Sex therapy is talk-based therapy that helps individuals and couples address low and mismatched desire, sexual pain including vaginismus and pelvic floor dysfunction, sexual dysfunction, post-baby and post-illness reconnection, intimacy after infidelity, and reclaiming erotic vitality in long-term partnerships. Dr. Ohebshalom is AASECT-certified and holds a PhD in human sexuality.

What modalities does Dr. Ohebshalom practice?

Clinical modalities include EMDR, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples and individuals, AASECT sex therapy, Gottman Method, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Deep Brain Reorientation (DBR), Flash Technique, Nonviolent Communication (NVC), Hakomi, somatic therapy, mindfulness, and positive psychology.

What is an EMDR intensive?

An EMDR intensive is a concentrated format of EMDR therapy — typically 6 to 12 hours across 2 to 3 consecutive days, tailored to the client's availability and goals. It is designed for founders, executives, and high-pressure professionals whose schedules cannot accommodate months of weekly sessions, allowing deeper trauma processing without long-term disruption.

Where is Dr. Ohebshalom licensed?

Dr. Ohebshalom is licensed in California as a Professional Clinical Counselor (LPCC #11181). Therapy is available in person at offices in Palo Alto and Los Altos Hills, and via telehealth throughout California. Executive coaching and the Co-Founder Clarity Program are available globally without geographic restriction.

What credentials does Dr. Ohebshalom hold?

Dr. Ohebshalom holds a PhD in human sexuality, is a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in California (LPCC #11181), is a Registered Nurse (RN), is a PSI-certified Perinatal Mental Health specialist (PMH-C), and is an AASECT-certified sex therapist.

What is the difference between therapy and executive coaching?

Therapy treats clinical conditions such as depression, anxiety, PTSD, and relational trauma, and works with history, identity, and the nervous system. Executive coaching focuses on present-day decisions, skills, and performance — leadership transitions, hard conversations, scaling, and board management. Many clients move between the two as the work demands.

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When Love Is Present But Desire Isn't: Navigating Sexual Shutdown in Relationships

Desire discrepancy—when one partner is sexually shut off while still deeply in love—is one of the most common and confusing issues couples face. This isn't about attraction fading or relationship problems. It's often about disconnection from one's own body, the weight of obligation, and a nervous system that has learned sex means pressure rather than pleasure. Through clinical examples and therapeutic insight, this article explores how reconnecting with oneself, establishing genuine boundaries, and creating safety for both yes and no allows authentic desire to emerge naturally. For individuals and couples in Palo Alto, Los Altos Hills, Atherton, and throughout the Bay Area navigating mismatched libidos, therapy can help rebuild the foundation from which connection and desire arise.

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The System of Disconnection: Understanding Mind-Body and Emotional Patterns in High-Functioning Anxiety

Many high-achieving professionals experience a persistent sense of disconnection, even when life looks successful on the outside. This post explores common patterns—like mind–body splits, emotional shutdown, burnout, and relational distance—that quietly undermine well-being. Understanding these dynamics can clarify why insight alone often isn’t enough and how restoring internal coherence can create a more integrated, fulfilling experience of life.

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Why Therapy Often Misses High-Functioning Anxiety: Insight Alone Often Isn’t Enough

YIn places like Atherton and Woodside, where intelligence, responsibility, and achievement are often quietly assumed rather than loudly displayed, many people carry a form of anxiety that is easy to miss precisely because it functions so well. Lives are outwardly stable, relationships appear intact, and careers are often the result of decades of discipline and internal pressure that has long since become normalized.