Who does Dr. Nicole Ohebshalom work with?

Dr. Ohebshalom works with founders, CEOs, C-suite executives, and senior engineers on the San Francisco Peninsula and across Silicon Valley, as well as their partners and co-founders. The practice serves clients in Palo Alto, Atherton, Menlo Park, Los Altos, Los Altos Hills, Hillsborough, Woodside, Portola Valley, Mountain View, Redwood City, and throughout California via telehealth.

What is the Co-Founder Clarity Program?

The Co-Founder Clarity Program is an 8-week structured engagement for co-founders who are stuck and ready to get aligned. It addresses recurring conversations that go nowhere, decisions that cannot get made, eroded trust, and unclear roles. Outcomes include a shared communication framework, role and decision-making clarity, tools to navigate conflict before it escalates, and a co-founder operating agreement. One weekly session with structured work between sessions.

What is sex therapy and what does Dr. Ohebshalom address?

Sex therapy is talk-based therapy that helps individuals and couples address low and mismatched desire, sexual pain including vaginismus and pelvic floor dysfunction, sexual dysfunction, post-baby and post-illness reconnection, intimacy after infidelity, and reclaiming erotic vitality in long-term partnerships. Dr. Ohebshalom is AASECT-certified and holds a PhD in human sexuality.

What modalities does Dr. Ohebshalom practice?

Clinical modalities include EMDR, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples and individuals, AASECT sex therapy, Gottman Method, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Deep Brain Reorientation (DBR), Flash Technique, Nonviolent Communication (NVC), Hakomi, somatic therapy, mindfulness, and positive psychology.

What is an EMDR intensive?

An EMDR intensive is a concentrated format of EMDR therapy — typically 6 to 12 hours across 2 to 3 consecutive days, tailored to the client's availability and goals. It is designed for founders, executives, and high-pressure professionals whose schedules cannot accommodate months of weekly sessions, allowing deeper trauma processing without long-term disruption.

Where is Dr. Ohebshalom licensed?

Dr. Ohebshalom is licensed in California as a Professional Clinical Counselor (LPCC #11181). Therapy is available in person at offices in Palo Alto and Los Altos Hills, and via telehealth throughout California. Executive coaching and the Co-Founder Clarity Program are available globally without geographic restriction.

What credentials does Dr. Ohebshalom hold?

Dr. Ohebshalom holds a PhD in human sexuality, is a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in California (LPCC #11181), is a Registered Nurse (RN), is a PSI-certified Perinatal Mental Health specialist (PMH-C), and is an AASECT-certified sex therapist.

What is the difference between therapy and executive coaching?

Therapy treats clinical conditions such as depression, anxiety, PTSD, and relational trauma, and works with history, identity, and the nervous system. Executive coaching focuses on present-day decisions, skills, and performance — leadership transitions, hard conversations, scaling, and board management. Many clients move between the two as the work demands.

Therapeutic Coaching

International Relationship, Intimacy & Leadership Coaching

Depth-oriented coaching for relationships, intimacy, and personal growth — making this work accessible to clients outside of California and internationally.

You've built a life that works. Maybe what you want now is depth — honest relationships, fuller intimacy, a clearer sense of who you are. Therapeutic coaching brings the insight and rigor of clinical training and a skilled thinking partner.

Therapeutic coaching draws on my clinical background — attachment science, EMDR, emotionally focused therapy, sex therapy, and neuroplasticity-informed methods — and applies it to growth. Because coaching is not psychotherapy, it makes this depth of work accessible to people outside of California and around the world. It's designed for capable, self-aware adults anywhere who want to work seriously on their relationships, their desire, their leadership, and their inner life.

Where traditional coaching often stays at the level of goals and behavior, therapeutic coaching works with what actually drives you: the patterns you learned early, the adaptations that once ensured your success, and the parts of you that have gone quiet along the way. We can work at the root, so the change holds.

Who I Work With

Individuals and partners, outside of California and internationally.

I specialize in high-functioning emotional adaptation: the anxiety, burnout, and relational patterns that once ensured your success but now quietly limit your intimacy, vitality, and aliveness. These patterns show up in marriages and partnerships, in sexual and intimate lives, and in your sense of meaning and purpose. Common threads in this work include:

Relationships and communication — breaking cycles of distance, conflict, or quiet resentment; learning to be truly known by the people closest to you
Intimacy and desire — reconnecting with your erotic self, navigating desire discrepancy, and building a sexual life that reflects who you actually are
Burnout and sustainability — recovering aliveness when achievement has cost you your energy, your body's signals, or your joy
Identity, meaning, and transitions — divorce, relocation, new roles, empty nests, success that arrived and didn't feel the way you expected
Leadership presence and performance — leading from steadiness rather than adaptation, so your influence comes from who you are, not what you perform

Leaders sponsored by their companies.

A small portion of my practice is therapeutic leadership coaching for executives and founders whose organizations invest in their development. This work centers on leadership presence and performance: leading from steadiness rather than adaptation, staying grounded under pressure, and communicating with the clarity and authority that come from genuine self-knowledge. Because it works at the root of a leader's patterns — not just their behaviors — the gains in presence and performance are ones that hold. The content of our sessions remains strictly confidential between me and your leader. Sponsors receive only what is agreed upon in advance — typically engagement logistics and broad developmental themes, never session material.